Prom Spot - Parents & Prom: 10 Things You Need to Know About

Even though the basics haven't changed since your prom, teens definitely have. Drinking, hotel rooms, curfew -- these are all sticky subjects you must discuss with your prom-goer. Prepare yourself and your teen with these top 10 things you need to talk about.

1. Cost
Proms cost a small fortune, but you shouldn't spend more than you can afford. Talk with your teen about how much you're willing to pitch in and what they're responsible for. Many teens cover a portion of their own expenses with after-school jobs and savings. For a general idea of prom costs, take a look at our prom budget breakdown.

2. Attire
Before you start stressing out about what kind of dress your daughter might bring home, stop. Did you know some schools don't even allow midriff-baring prom dresses, and others put their foot down on too-high slits? Before you fork over any dough for a dress she'll never get to show off, review the rules together and decide on a style you both like.

3. Curfew
Prom night curfew is a sticky topic. Some parents are all for it while others don't want to spoil their teen's night. Before deciding on a curfew, consider your teen's history, responsibility, respect, and maturity level. Due to the nature of the subject, discuss it with your teen well in advance and work out a deal you're both happy with.

4. Other Parents
There's safety in numbers, so the more you talk about prom with other parents, the more secure you'll be. Some moms and dads choose to go all out by scheduling a small pre-party with their teens and parents a month before prom. Everyone can iron out all the details beforehand and rest assured that their teen's welfare is the top priority.

5. The Law
With many schools using breathalyzers at prom, it's clear that alcohol has become an issue on prom night. Even limo companies are getting involved with stricter drinking policies, charging a large on-the-spot sum for any alcohol-related damages. While taking measures like banning alcohol at post-prom parties is key, it's even more vital to converse with your teen about responsible drinking before prom night arrives.

6. Chaperoning
Standing guard at your teen's prom may ease your mind, but you must consider his or her feelings. Before you decide to sign up, make a point to discuss it together. Is your teen comfortable with the idea? You never know -- your teen may agree, provided you promise not to do anything embarrassing.

7. The After-Party
If you're worried about letting your teen hang out all night with no supervision, you're not alone. Most parents (and many schools) make plans to secure a safe after-prom environment for students. While many schools arrange to have alcohol- and drug-free after-parties on school grounds (complete with transportation), you can also plan a party at home to keep tabs on your teens. Lay out ground rules of acceptable after-prom activities in advance so there's no confusion.

8. Hotel Rooms
Overnight hotel stays have become increasingly popular, mostly due to concerns about teens being on the road late at night. Not everyone agrees, though -- many parents and school administrators rally against this practice. Two things to keep in mind before you decide: There's obviously an increased chance of alcohol consumption, and there's always the possibility of property damage (which, since minors must use an adult's credit card to book a room, means you or other parents will be liable for damages). Discuss with your teen in depth about responsibility and consequences.

9. Safety
Safety is the number-one concern for parents on prom night. Start by talking with your teen and set up a safety system like a chauffeur, older teen chaperone, or a no-questions-asked policy so they can call you anytime, anywhere if trouble arises. Although you may not approve of what they're doing, it's best to keep them safe. For more information, check out these helpful resources:

Mothers Against Drunk Driving: madd.org

Students Against Destructive Decisions: saddonline.com

American Council for Drug Education: acde.org

10. Checking In
No matter what your teen says, you have a right to know his or her whereabouts. If your teen resents you calling to check in, have him or her call you instead. Set prearranged times (arriving at prom, after the dance, middle of the night) and be available to talk. With mandatory check-ins, there's less chance of irresponsible behavior.

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--Elina Furman